8 Tips to Deal With a Difficult Boss

In today’s corporate world, you need to know how to block the negative energies to do our best at work. These are some tips to deal with a difficult or toxic boss to give you peace of mind.

1. Know the reason for “why?”. Identify the motive of your Boss

The primary tip is to understand the reason behind the toxic responses of your boss. Try to understand the triggering point without considering those negative responses in a personal manner. There is a root cause of the negative response. Try to figure that out. 

Even though you are working late hours, your boss may scold you when you get a few minutes late for work. Maybe it’s not that he cares about the time you start the work; maybe he cares about how other employees and their superiors see your late attendance.

2. Predict Expectations of your Boss

Take some time and become familiar with your boss’s demands and expectations. You can easily anticipate their requests and avoid harming the relationship the more you are familiar with. Maybe he/she is always demanding for common things. Identify what kind of personality he/she is and his common demands for the work that you do.

A perfectionist personality demands the work of their subordinates to be perfect. Your boss may be blaming you because your report is not neat and having spelling mistakes. In this situation, you could take some effort and self-review the report and do these corrections before submitting it to your boss. These minor changes from your end will affect the relationship between you and your boss.

Try to put yourself in their shoes and see your work, as he/she might.

3. Be a Problem-Solver, not a Problem-Maker

Be the problem solver when there is a problem that arises in the team. Do not wait for the interference of your boss always. Help the team members to fix the things when the situation goes wrong. Actively contribute to the team.

Also actively seek help from your colleagues when there is a work-related problem that affects you. Do not wait until it escalates to your boss. This demonstrates your team working ability and problem-solving ability.

Your boss may have too much on their plate to handle. Your boss will be happy to see that you as an employee stepping ahead and trying to decrease their workload. It will help to build the repo that you need within the workplace.

4. Demonstrate your Leadership Qualities

Leadership skills help to turn the negative environment into a positive and proactive one. You can use a difficult situation handling experience as an opportunity to practice your leadership skills.

Naturally, superiors micromanage their subordinates if they do not have the trust in them. In this situation, you can put some effort to complete the work before the deadline. Demonstrate your leadership quality and the responsibility to complete the work before your boss asks for an update. These will show them you respect their requests and take your job seriously.

Toxic personalities in your boss such as micromanage will be over when your boss is confident and trusts your work.

5. Understand the Preferred Communication Style of your Boss

Taking the time to determine the preferred communication style of your boss. This can help to avoid triggers in toxic situations.

Your boss might prefer to communicate primarily via in-person communication before direct email. Make it a habit to first meet him or call him and then send them the email. The more likely your positive relationship will improve the more you understand the preferred communication methodology of your boss.

Do not forget that the preferred communication might vary with the situation. Boss may prefer to speak in person first for only serious matters. Boss may prefer direct email communication first for only less serious matters. This depends on the professional communication preference of each person.

If you’ve ever done any personality assessments such as “16Personalities by NERIS Analytics” or “DISC Personality Test“, then see if your boss has as well and find out what they are.

6. Continue the Excellent Work

Your self-motivation indeed lose when your boss continuously demonstrates toxic behavior. But never attempt to give a similar return to the bad behavior of your boss. Things will get worse and worst if you try to take the heat out of them. Make sure your work ethics are above expectations.

The best balance to deal with negativity is positivity. Let the positivity reflect upon the workplace and your boss.

7. Directly Speak with Your Boss

Don’t hesitate to directly speak to your boss. Seeking feedback from your boss will improve your understanding of their expectations. You can directly speak to your boss at a time when he is relaxed.

You can also seek his advice and ask his expectation of the work that you do. This will help you to understand how you could improve yourself in the future to align with his/her expectations.

8. Treat the Situation as an Incredible Learning Experience

This is the best personal skill that you can develop. Treat the toxic situation handling as a learning experience for yourself. Every workplace has difficult people to work with. It is priceless for your career to have experience in tackling those situations.

Additional Reading:

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